You know the feeling.
It’s summer, you’ve been sitting in a hot car, wearing shorts and sweating. You begin to peel yourself off the once seemingly comfortable black leather interior. As you start to scoot on the seat you immediately know the level of pain that is about to follow.
Similar to ripping off a band aid … do you do it all at once to avoid the slow, agonizing pain? Or do you methodically inch yourself away, mentally preparing as every single morsel of skin feels as though it’s being torn off.
Why the heck do I bring this up?
Because last year — exactly 365 days ago — I was faced with a similar feeling.
After being dealt a pretty crappy hand — i.e. getting laid off from my job — I had two options; slowly peel myself off the burning black leather or jump out of the car quickly before my brain could catch up to the discomfort.
Luckily I chose the latter and I believe I’m stronger for it.
One year later and there have been a multitude of forks along my path. A series of bumps in my road.
I’ve applied for jobs, signed up for LinkedIn Premium, perfected my Care.com account, gone on dates and left dates early. I’ve been ‘ghosted’ … by guys and career leads. And on rare occasions I’ve been the one initiating the rejecting; when I knew I deserved better.
Bottom line: From professional to personal, this year has been one of growth. And while it may seem scary to some, I’ve spent a great deal of the past 12 months … alone. It’s been in these moments of solitude that I’ve made the most impactful decisions. One’s that have rerouted my journey. This solo-time has assured me that the difficult decisions were the right ones and the path I’m paving for myself is built with consideration, concentration and most importantly, patience.
So whether you’re dealing with a breakup, bad job or one of life’s many hiccups, it’s important to remember that you’re the one in control. Rip off the bandaid, peel those sweaty legs off the leather seat and start making some moves. A lot — I repeat — a lot can happen in a year.
Trust the process and find strength in each step.